Weekly Photo Challenge: Room(s) to Inspire Kindness and Compassion

I thought how unpleasant it is to be locked out; and I thought how it is worse, perhaps, to be locked in. — Virginia Wool

Both of my children have been fortunate to have some good teachers. I still believe the ones who made mistakes had good intentions; I just wish they had been more open in their thinking and less judgmental. I believe they can learn from their mistakes, and maybe one day they will.

Slogans like the ones on the outside of the classrooms above certainly indicate that teachers at least see the need for change. I can only hope that the changes really are happening in the classrooms and that no one feels locked in or locked out like we did.

This post is inspired by the weekly photo challenge at The Daily Post.

Bringing a Village of Support Together 6

What village you wonder? I am hoping it will be a very large village. Calling all parents, all teachers, all principals, all school counselors, all employers, and everyone else! Your support matters! It really does. I dream of a day when everyone gets it.

Bullying is an emotional cancer. Please don’t say it doesn’t kill like cancer. Obviously it does. Unfortunately, we hear the stories all too often. That is why Amalia Starr and I are co-hosting a Twitter Chat. What’s a Twitter Chat you ask?

It is a Twitter party of sorts and you’re invited. Come to this address: http://tweetchat.com/room/bfvllgesupprt, on October 16, 2012 from 9:00 AM HST/3:00 PM EDT until 10:00 AM HST/ 4:00 PM EDT. I hope you’ll come and bring questions related to how we can all come together to change our world to a place where kindness is the norm. I also welcome your ideas for solutions and I look forward to meeting all of you. Just remember we will have to keep communication within the 140 characters or less including the hashtag, #bfvllgesupprt, it stands for bully free village of support.

You can go to http://tweeparties.com/beginners_guide.html to read more about how to participate in a Twitter party. I will also be glad to bring your questions and/ or suggestions to the group if you are unable to attend. You can leave them in the comments on this post or you make contact me @dswalkerauthor on Twitter.

Please remember that a quick e-mail or text saying I miss you or a card saying I’m thinking about you can make a big difference in the life of those who experience bullying. Better yet, how about acknowledging that you saw what happened, and you are willing to go with the person to talk to a teacher or school counselor with them, or to your employer or higher in command for adult bullying or even to the police.

I dream of a day when this is the norm. Two examples of adults being bullied have been in the news this past year and people have rallied around them. Please realize other victims experience even worse bullying, and it is not just one episode like in these two cases. They too deserve this level of support. I want groups to rally around those who experience bullying the same way we rally around those with physical illnesses. Instead of telling kids it gets better, when we know adults are bullied too, let’s really make it better.

Parents teach your children the value of kindness not just by your words, but by your deeds. Schools, you have to stop saying it is not your job to teach values. That might have been true once upon a time, but I doubt it was ever true. Employers you owe your employees a safe environment. I hope all of you will join the party on Tuesday.

Strike with Force or Become a Force for Change

Should we teach children to use physical force to fight bullies when comebacks have failed? Would you be okay with your child using physical force if he needed to protect himself from harm? Are you aware that fighting back does not always stop bullies? What will you do if the school suspends your child for protecting himself? Would you fight the school’s decision? What if you ….

Summary

Yes, I saw bystanders speaking up work on “Dateline” too. Honestly, none of those children on the show had to see each other the next day. They were all from different places. My daughter did standup to bullies. That is how she became a target during the worse year of her young life. We all have to speak out and support others who do too. Fighting bullying is not a one man, a one woman, a one child, a one organization, or even a one movie or one book operation. It really does take a village. Please become part of the village.

Go to Special-Ism.com to read more.