My Christmas Wish: Sweeter People and More Joy and Understanding 2

Sweet Christmas TreeI purposefully avoided posting this past week.  My meeting with the new administrator of the former school was disappointing although I was proud of how I handled myself. I wonder if he can say the same.

I lost hope in ever getting through to anyone at the school because this man is known for implementing an empathy program at his former school yet, I did not feel any compassion from him. Aloha was certainly missing from this meeting.

Still, I know there are good people in this world and my children are safe.  They are both amazing and kind despite the world and despite the former school’s attitude about doing the right thing. I am not going to pursue trying to talk sense into the senseless anymore. I have more important things to do with my time than waste it on those who seem unable to be compassionate. My family needs me to drop it, so this is my last post about my daughter’s school experience. She is happy again and is working towards her goals and that is all that really matters to me. I am grateful that we have supportive people in our lives and both of my children have good friends.

The news out of Connecticut last Friday shocked my very core and deeply saddened me. The news media continues to promote stigma instead of the need for more support and understanding, and the list goes on and on.

I pray for a kinder world for all children. I send prayers to the families in Newtown. I send out prayers that someday the rest of the world will understand that supporting children and their families should be the norm regardless of whether the child has a physical illness, a developmental delay, a neurological difference, a mental diagnosis, a physical difference, or any other difference. We support victims of senseless violence and of disease and we should, but we should also support everyone else.

I wonder what if:

  • What if Adam and his mother had support when he was younger?
  • What if assault weapons were illegal?
  • What if children saw beyond the packaging and they saw his heart when he was younger?

Would things have turned out differently last Friday? We have no way of knowing for sure. Yet, I can imagine a different outcome. I can imagine a kinder, more understanding world where everyone really is safe.

I hope I am not alone. I hope you can imagine it too. Help to change your corner of the world to a more supportive place for all. Help the Adams of the world before it is too late. Everyone deserves more kindness in this world.

Bringing a Village of Support Together 6

What village you wonder? I am hoping it will be a very large village. Calling all parents, all teachers, all principals, all school counselors, all employers, and everyone else! Your support matters! It really does. I dream of a day when everyone gets it.

Bullying is an emotional cancer. Please don’t say it doesn’t kill like cancer. Obviously it does. Unfortunately, we hear the stories all too often. That is why Amalia Starr and I are co-hosting a Twitter Chat. What’s a Twitter Chat you ask?

It is a Twitter party of sorts and you’re invited. Come to this address: http://tweetchat.com/room/bfvllgesupprt, on October 16, 2012 from 9:00 AM HST/3:00 PM EDT until 10:00 AM HST/ 4:00 PM EDT. I hope you’ll come and bring questions related to how we can all come together to change our world to a place where kindness is the norm. I also welcome your ideas for solutions and I look forward to meeting all of you. Just remember we will have to keep communication within the 140 characters or less including the hashtag, #bfvllgesupprt, it stands for bully free village of support.

You can go to http://tweeparties.com/beginners_guide.html to read more about how to participate in a Twitter party. I will also be glad to bring your questions and/ or suggestions to the group if you are unable to attend. You can leave them in the comments on this post or you make contact me @dswalkerauthor on Twitter.

Please remember that a quick e-mail or text saying I miss you or a card saying I’m thinking about you can make a big difference in the life of those who experience bullying. Better yet, how about acknowledging that you saw what happened, and you are willing to go with the person to talk to a teacher or school counselor with them, or to your employer or higher in command for adult bullying or even to the police.

I dream of a day when this is the norm. Two examples of adults being bullied have been in the news this past year and people have rallied around them. Please realize other victims experience even worse bullying, and it is not just one episode like in these two cases. They too deserve this level of support. I want groups to rally around those who experience bullying the same way we rally around those with physical illnesses. Instead of telling kids it gets better, when we know adults are bullied too, let’s really make it better.

Parents teach your children the value of kindness not just by your words, but by your deeds. Schools, you have to stop saying it is not your job to teach values. That might have been true once upon a time, but I doubt it was ever true. Employers you owe your employees a safe environment. I hope all of you will join the party on Tuesday.

Mahalo Nui Loa for Support

Picture taken while on vacation July, 2012. ©dswalkerauthor.com

I need to focus on gratitude today. I am grateful for any and all who interact on Twitter, who one plus my Google posts, who like and share my posts on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+.  I’ll always be grateful to those of you who have reached out over the past two years, especially to those who still do, and to those who reached out to M. too. I’m grateful for new followers. And, I am grateful so many are now speaking out about the need for more kindness, understanding, and acceptance of differences in this world. I am glad leaders like Martin Luther King, Jr. lead the way for change.

There are still times when I feel like one small voice in the universe. Ironically, it is the people trying to get me to promote my book for their profit that make me feel small. It does little to convince me to pay them for promotion since neither source has given me evidence that doing so will yield results. Of course, I want to sell more books. What author wouldn’t, but book sales are secondary for me these days.  I cannot afford to put my money down a black hole with two kids fast approaching college age. Nor, am I young enough anymore to forgo sleep to spend hours doing self-promotion.

Frankly, at this point I am focusing on the second novel and continuing to promote more understanding and kindness in this world.  I do this by speaking out about why it is important and through my writing here and at Special-Ism.com.

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly. —-Martin Luther King, Jr. Alabama 1963

Amalia Starr and I will also be co-hosting a Twitter chat on October 16, 2012 from 3:00 PM til 4:00 PM EDT about ways we can all support each other to help overcome the bullying epidemic. I hope some of you will join us. I will be posting more details about it later this week.

Fellow bloggers, I hope you understand that while I do not always comment, I still skim posts. I will always respond if I see you or your family are having trouble with bullying or anything else where I might be able to help or to at least offer support. I interact more on Twitter these days because it is faster, so if you are on Twitter please send me an @dswalkerauthor sometime. I try to RT and support my friends as much as I can.

Mahalo nui loa (thank you very much) for your support and understanding.

Top 10 Reasons I Hate Election Years

 

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  • 10. People stop listening to reason!
  •  9. All sides act like bullies and try to sway voters with put-downs instead of logic, setting bad examples for our children.
  •  8. Families and friends make a game out of turning on each other, instead of supporting each other, again setting bad examples.
  •  7. People argue with emotions instead of with facts, and too many politicians campaign totally on emotions rather than facts.
  •  6. People send chain e-mails without checking the facts first.
  •  5. Both sides ignore the real issues, and many in the news media join in instead of reporting facts.
  •  4. The campaign ads do not give reliable sources.
  •  3. We lose at least one year of action while our leaders are campaigning and fighting each other.
  •  2. Too few focus on the good both sides have done and instead focus only on the negatives.
  •  1. It divides our country, families, and friends at a time we cannot afford to be divided.