Marriage Advice for Peace at Home 2

This month Kozo at Everyday Gurus asked us to do a post related to peace at home for Bloggers for Peace. Click on link for details.

The best advice I ever received regarding keeping the peace in a marriage was given to me at my wedding rehearsal by Henry Winkler, and no he is not a family friend. He just happened to be taking some of his friends on a tour of the church just prior to our wedding rehearsal. I apologize in advance for the poor quality of the video, but keep in mind that it was made over nineteen years ago before HD video was available.

I’m grateful that he took the time to offer his wonderful advice and that we have the video to remind us to follow it.

Bloggers for Peace and May’s Monthly Challenge: Art Thou Peaceful? 4

Created by Kozo at Everyday Gurus for Bloggers for Peace.

Created by Kozo at Everyday Gurus for Bloggers for Peace.

Yes, I am aware that it is no longer May where many of you live, but it still is May in Hawaii. Tracy at FEC-This reminded me that I need to do this post when I saw her post earlier today.

You can learn more about this challenge by reading Kozo’s post at Everyday Gurus where the challenge originated and from there you can also click on the Links to see others

I photographed this peaceful piece of art at Kapìolani Community College. The trio of stacked stones or pohaku was created as a symbol of direction to inspire, guide, and embody the spirit of Hawaii or the aloha spirit.

Pohaku O Le'ahi created by Lucille Baldwin Cooper

Pohaku O Le’ahi created by Lucille Baldwin Cooper

Social Media and the Dreaded Question: What If I Am the One Who Is Wrong? 2

ci_78ca29e0-b2ec-475b-8122-e38d027371baHave you ever responded to someone on Facebook and then asked yourself this question? Have you ever unfriended someone because of something they said or did on Facebook or another form of social media? So, what if I am wrong?

This past week has had me asking these questions. The problem is I honestly don’t know. I am positive that others misjudge me sometimes based on things I’ve said or done on social media including posts on this blog. I know I have even been misjudged based on my novel. Therefore, isn’t it equally possible for me to jump to similar conclusions about others?

Of course it is. Facebook has never been my favorite for just this reason. Twitter is more my style. Somehow for me anyway, it is harder to get in trouble in those 140 characters. Maybe it is because few words make for fewer mistakes. I’m not sure.

I fully understand how young people can get into trouble on Facebook. Facebook seems to thrive on controversy more than any other social media. It is almost encouraged. Then add in the fact that unlike face to face interactions, we have no way of perceiving the person’s emotions or intention.

To any and all I have misjudged or who have misjudged me, I extend the olive branch of forgiveness.

Popular Show Makes Revenge Seem Like Fun; Think Again

The television show Revenge is hugely popular and I admit I have a guilty secret. I like it too. Still, I want people to understand that in real life, words and actions really do cause harm and this will never be undone by revenge.

Instead anger will consume you. That is why I joined Bloggers for Peace to help me overcome my anger and to continue working towards true forgiveness. Click on the link to find out about this month’s challenge and click on B4Peace to learn more about Bloggers for Peace.

I have written so many posts about teaching kindness and to educate others to help them avoid being hurt.

Please teach your children well and if you need help doing this please read the post I wrote for on the topic. You might also share the wise words of Frederick Buechner if you have an older child. I believe that if we all join together we truly can change the world to a more peaceful place for all.

Of the seven deadly sins, anger is possibly the most fun.

To lick you wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past,

To roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come,

To savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back …

In many ways it is a feast fit for a king.

The chief drawback is what you are wolfing down is yourself.

The skeleton at the feast is you.

                                                      ——— Frederick Buechner

Do you see the skeleton and the other faces in the clouds? You might need to click on the picture to enlarge it. Hint: The skeleton on the left, near the middle of the page.

Do you see the skeleton and the other faces in the clouds? You might need to click on the picture to enlarge it. Hint: The skeleton on the left, near the middle of the page.