The television show Revenge is hugely popular and I admit I have a guilty secret. I like it too. Still, I want people to understand that in real life, words and actions really do cause harm and this will never be undone by revenge.
Instead anger will consume you. That is why I joined Bloggers for Peace to help me overcome my anger and to continue working towards true forgiveness. Click on the link to find out about this month’s challenge and click on B4Peace to learn more about Bloggers for Peace.
I have written so many posts about teaching kindness and to educate others to help them avoid being hurt.
Please teach your children well and if you need help doing this please read the post I wrote for Special_Ism.com on the topic. You might also share the wise words of Frederick Buechner if you have an older child. I believe that if we all join together we truly can change the world to a more peaceful place for all.
Of the seven deadly sins, anger is possibly the most fun.
To lick you wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past,
To roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come,
To savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back …
In many ways it is a feast fit for a king.
The chief drawback is what you are wolfing down is yourself.
The skeleton at the feast is you.
——— Frederick Buechner
Do you see the skeleton and the other faces in the clouds? You might need to click on the picture to enlarge it. Hint: The skeleton on the left, near the middle of the page.
Read We Can Make a Difference–Right Here, Right Now for detailed instructions about how to join and read Musings: On Peace…. from Mirth and Motivation for an example of what to write if you choose to write instead of sharing photos. Then go to Kozo and Cheri’s site to see more bloggers for peace posts.
Here’s my post for peace:
Photo by D. S. Walker ©dswalkerauthor.com May be shared with link to original post.
I do not believe in a fate that falls on men however they act; but I do believe in a fate that falls on them unless they act. —-Siddhārtha Gautama
Luke 6 verse 35 – 37
Do you have someone you need to forgive? You already know I do if you have looked at my Forgiveness and Gratitude page at the top of my blog. And, what better day to forgive or at least to work on forgiving than Global Forgiveness Day?
Apparently, there are multiple dates set aside for forgiveness including International Forgiveness Day, the first Sunday of August. While doing research for this post, I found conflicting information about Global Forgiveness Day. An article at the Huffington Post stated Global Forgiveness Day was on July seventh; so forgive me if I have the wrong date.
The exact date is probably less important than actually forgiving. The problem is how do we truly forgive? I am not going to rehash my prior posts since you can read them from the link above if you choose.
Instead, I want you to read a post from my friend, Phil Dzialo, Moving from Apology to Forgiveness to Closure … It Can Happen! He and his family found some closure after their experience with their son’s near drowning while at a summer day camp. He mentions a book, On Apology, by Dr. Aaron Lazare in his post. It is a book I highly recommend as I have been reading it upon Phil’s suggestion. It has helped me to understand there are times when we need an apology to help us to continue healing.
However, there are also times when you can learn to forgive without actually receiving an apology as noted in my prior posts about Dr. Frederic Luskin’s book, Forgive for Good. This seems to work better when the offense is in the past. However, even then it does not always work. This is especially true if you keep hearing stories about how great the people who offended you are. Imagine hearing this when you know that they really have not changed.
This is when an apology becomes extremely important. Otherwise it is too easy to get lost in anger, and that is not a good thing. Anger consumes you rather than those with whom you remain angry.
Photo taken at the FDR Memorial in Washington, D. C.