There is a new kid in town and no it is not this bird. The bird is a Cattle Egret a.k.a. Bubulcus Ibis. I have been wanting to get a picture of one and today I was able to do this. His pictures seemed prefect for this post.
The new kid is someone I love dearly and whom I totally support although I am not adding her link or mentioning where you can find her. This is a precaution I feel strongly about since she is a minor. I am following her just not publicly although I am glad others are following her publicly and I encourage you to do this if you have not. I am very proud of her and I am passing the reins regarding sharing her story to her.
That is why I am not answering questions directly related to her for future post although there will be a post of answers to questions on Mommy Lebron’s blog tomorrow. She is aware of my answers and is okay with them, but I am not comfortable with any further questions directly about her. Again, I want to protect her as much as possible while still encouraging her.
Related to this, I am having thoughts about starting one or two new blogs. I want to keep my life, as an advocate for tolerance and acceptance of differences for those with special needs, separate from things I want to post related to brain storming ideas and the writing process for my next novel. I plan to change the tone of this blog to more general topics related to autism spectrum, bullying, and tolerance rather than specifically as it relates to my family.
In addition, I still plan to continue to write about forgiveness and gratitude. I am not sure if I should continue to post my forgiveness and gratitude posts here or start a third blog as obviously some of these posts are directly related to bullying issues and to my beautiful daughter. Your thoughts on this one might help me with my decision.
All of my blogs will be accessible from my author site as pages whatever I decide. I hope you understand my decision. I will be blogging here at least weekly until the end of the year. I may decrease the posts here after that, but I do plan to keep the blog.
Today I am grateful for Katherine who shared this wonderful photo of her Merjiro, aka Japanese White-eye, with me and gave me permission to use it. The white around his eye gives him his name and makes him unique like many people.
Thank you to those of you who take the time to get to know and truly work to understand and accept children and adults with differences. The support you give is greatly appreciated. Hopefully in the future others will follow your example. Blessings to all of you for all you do! God willing hopefully one day in the future we will see an end to bullying of all types.
There have always been people with differences and without them we would not have music, movies, books, cell phones, laptops, iPads, iPods, or so many other delightful things most of us enjoy. The next time you meet someone who appears unconventional please take the time to see what wonderful insights that unique person has to offer.
I’m not sure how many of you watched Dateline Sunday night, “My Kids Would Never…Bully” after I tweeted it on Friday, but I watched it and loved it. Two of the bystanders were very brave and spoke up and defended the victim and then continued to defend the victim when the bullying got worse. Yay Lilly and Isaiah!!!!!!! Others joined in once one person spoke up. We really need more of this. Others also made efforts to support the victim, but some were not forceful enough for it to make a difference. Bystanders really can make a difference when they are firm and persistent!!!!
I also loved that they emphasized that adults set the tone and actually showed how bad coaching or really any bad authority figure can contribute to escalating bullying and more people joining the bully. Of note, one girl, who admitted liking Gossip Girl style was easily pulled into joining the bullies. This brings home a point I made in a previous posts about watching mean girl shows. You can read it here. One of the boys was also drawn into helping the bullies, but this was after the bad example set by the “coach” of observing the bullying and then not doing anything to help and in fact making it worse.
Another nice thing they did that I love is they gave links to sites with more information to take action against the bullying. I also love that Rosalind Wiseman emphasized the importance of the bystander speaking up and being assertive and firm rather than being kind when confronting the bully. The guy from the Hetrick-Martin Institute also pointed out that calling someone “gay” has become the new way to bully even when the victim is not “gay.” This happens on sports teams and at school.
The resources they listed are: http://rosalindwiseman.com
http://hmi.org (This is the Hetrick-Martin Institute who were also on the show to help.)
http://glsen.org (The Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network)
Do you have examples of bad teachers, coaches, parents, or other adults contributing to the bullying?