It is time for my 2011 weekly Project Gratitude post. Information about Project Gratitude can be found at:
Riding the Roller Coaster: Project Gratitude.
I am grateful there are still parents who instill kindness in their children. I hope and pray there will be even more who do this soon. I am especially grateful for the bystanders who stand up to bullies and tell them that yes, he or she is my friend. The more bystanders stand up to bullies, the less power bullies have. I am glad some people are getting this message. I am grateful to all of the people including parents, teachers, counselors, principals, and children who are working to make this the standard instead of the exception. I am posting links to some of the ones I found today.
Kind Campaign highlights problem of female bullying.
Goddard School asks Could We All Be Bullies?
The following post is an example of a total failure on the part of a school, the children who go there, and the parents of these children, but I am grateful that the girl is speaking out instead of taking her own life.
Payton Spinney: Friend of Phoebe Prince, Who Was Bullied to Suicide, Is Being Taunted for Asperger’s Syndrome – ABC News.
I wrote a blog about accountability back in October and finally some people are being held accountable for their actions just as I have said they should be.
Accountability for Protecting Our Children | dswalkerauthor.
One more good and bad together. This one is about adult bullies, and I am grateful this story is being reported, and the man who posted threats was arrested.
Opinion | The trolls and bullies must not stifle community engagement | Seattle Times Newspaper.
Let me know what you think about the recent developments.
We had our first encounter with bullying this year..One incident-which is enough. We used it as a learning experience for my son-and through that he has gained more confidence. Responsibility is everything.
One incident is more than enough! I’m glad you were able to turn a bad experience into something positive.
My husband works for a state agency that deals with disgruntled people on a regular basis, and if the callers make specific threats against the agents or the agency, it actually is considered terroristic and they are visited by their local police to be warned to stop it.
I am glad that they take it seriously. Threats should be taken seriously. I am also hopeful more parents and schools will teach children that defamation of character and harassment are against the law.
Bullying is such a scary thing. I thought I had a while before I had to think about it, but already in 1st grade, my son has experienced a minor case. Another boy was trying to take food out of my son’s lunch, and it just broke my heart when my son asked me not to put his favorite snack in his lunch because he didn’t want to have to deal with this kid. I emailed the teacher, and fortunately she jumped on it, speaking to both the student and his mother the very next day.
I hope I’m teaching my son the right things to do to cope with bullies. It’s so much tougher than when I was in school!
I’m so glad you’re continuing your own Project Gratitude! 🙂
I love Project Gratitude! Of course I usually try to post something more positive on these days, but I really am grateful that more people are becoming aware of the bullying problem and trying to help. I also am grateful that the issue is being taken seriously now.
I’m glad the teacher was able to help you and your son! 🙂 I am sure you are doing a great job with him. The main thing is that he told you what happened. Keeping the lines of communication open is so important.
I guess my biggest shock was realizing that some parents were okay with their children being mean. Ironically the meanest kids sometimes turn out to be former friends who may have even been at your home or whose home your child has visited. When I was growing up if either of my parents heard one of us even said something mean to another child, we would have been in deep trouble. I’m afraid I see exactly why the children act the way they do. I hope other parents change so meanness is no longer tolerated. I think most schools are trying to address the issue now. We just need more parents to address it also.
With all these incidents about bullying, I am really scared for my little one who starts school this year. Breaks my heart to know about the victims, especially those heavily affected by bullying, those who took permanent measures of taking their own lives to get out of it. It also breaks my heart in disappointment to know about the bullies, who seem well-rounded but don’t know any better, don’t know compassion and kindness.
Things will continue to get better if we all work together. My best advice for parents of elementary school age children is to volunteer occasionally to either assist in the lunch room or during recess. That way you can identify the children who are at risk and offer help. You can also identify the children who are being mean and try to intervene. There is hope if we all work together. I also hope the arrests of the girls will send a message to others that they can go to jail for cyber bullying. My hope is more parents will now get involved, and we will see the climate of meanness change to a climate of kindness. At least more people are getting the message. When my daughter experienced bullying a few years ago no one was listening including the parents.
I only volunteered for classroom activities when my daughter was younger, but I learned from my mistakes and volunteered to help in the lunch room at my son’s school. I did this every week for a year and then helped when I could over the next couple of years. It is a real eye opener to observe the children when the teacher and their parents aren’t around. Now I know when my son tells me so and so is saying or doing something that he is telling the truth. I work with him on comebacks and he has friends who support him.