More Than Autism Awareness: Acceptance, Appreciation, and Accommodation So They Can Soar! 2

I spent two days exhibiting at the Pacific Rim International Conference on Disability & Diversity surrounded by people with talents beyond my dreams. These are great minds that work harder than most just to be heard. They have greater capabilities and bigger hearts than those who try to keep them down by failing to accommodate them and by failing to see the beauty of their souls.

I met an inspiring young woman, Jocelyn Davis who wrote a children’s book There Will Always be Love...Read More over at Blessed Elements where I am guest posting.

Grace is featuring autism related give-aways and other bloggers for the month of April for Autism Awareness Month.

Gratitude for Supportive Family and Friends 6

This past week I have not felt as grateful as I normally do for personal reasons.   Today I am grateful for my family and my blogging friends who reached out to offer support.  I am also grateful for the blue lights that many used to show support for Autism Awareness.  We turned our outside lights blue and we wore blue too.  Did you?  I know many of my blogging friends did because I saw their pictures on Facebook.

I am also grateful that President Obama wrote a formal proclamation making April second officially Autism Awareness Day from this day forward.

Trust Is a Fragile Thing 14

Every Child Deserves Acceptance and Love

This is a picture of my innocent child with her grandfather in a shared moment of happiness.  She did not get to know her wonderful grandfather because this was his last birthday.  This child like every child on earth deserves understanding, acceptance, and love.

How Do You Recover Lost Trust?

Two days ago the Word Press post-a-day topic was a question.  “How do you recover lost trust?”  The bonus promote was:  “If someone lets you down or betrays you, how do you learn to forgive?  And can you possibly learn to trust them again?  Why or why not?”

I have repeatedly mentioned that I believe in forgiveness.  I have explained why in prior posts so I am not going to repeat myself today.  You can click Forgiveness and Gratitude from the menu at the top of this page for more information. However, I do want you to understand that I too still struggle with forgiveness as my child still struggles with the effects of being misunderstood and with the effects of past bullying.

One of the effects is lost trust. My child lost trust in doctors because doctors misdiagnosed her when she had classic traits of Asperger’s and  sensory sensitivities from the time she was a toddler. We took her to these doctors. We listened to their poor advice before I finally said enough and took her for a full evaluation with a neuropsychologist where we first heard the word Asperger’s.

More Trust Lost

Our family was just starting to mend when bullies made things worse. This resulted in more lost trust as we had to force her to go to school on the advice of the school and the psychologist. We tried to convince her to switch schools the following year; however, Asperger’s makes change difficult and we did not insist because the school worked with us.

Prayers and Education

I pray everyday for help to forgive those who hurt my child. I am not sure how to get trust back, but I believe forgiveness will help. This is why I wrote the book. That is why it is so important to educate others.

Please help me educate others so no more sweet innocent children are misunderstood or mistreated.

Addendum

My daughter left the school of her dreams after this publication when an English teacher single-handedly decided that my daughter was too “high functioning” to have Asperger’s. This same teacher reported my daughter as a disciplinary problem when she missed school due to sinus infections with laryngitis brought on by stress.

This was while the school counselor and I were trying to help my daughter with issues related to the long-term effects of bullying and still having to deal with those involved. The combination of the teacher’s attitude and the other things she was dealing with caused my daughter to shut down. Yet, she managed to bravely tell the school dean of her decision to withdraw from the school due to their failures. You can read about it here: Gratitude for Inspiring Daughter. That was almost two years ago and during that time I have helped my daughter with symptoms of PTSD while working to forgive all the people who failed her including us.

She is on the mend and dreams of going away to college to escape Oahu and start fresh. You can help her accomplish this goal by sharing our story and purchasing my novel. Right now her dream college is out of our budget. BTW We live on an island in the middle of the Pacific, so the only way she can go away is to pay out-of-state tuition.

Letters to Turn the White House Blue 5

What do you think would happen if everyone who blogs about autism spectrum related issues or who reads about it sent a letter to President Obama asking him to do this for two nights?  The nights are April 1, 2011 and  April 2, 2011 in honor of World Autism Awareness Day on April 2, 2011.  I’m not sure where the idea started.  I first saw it on Facebook.  It might have originated at the Word Press site, Light the White House Blue for Autism. Yesterday I saw a post from Ms. Sergeant Major after AK Butler Try Defying Gravity brought it to my attention.  This inspired me to write my letter which I am posting below.  It is easy to contact the White House if you feel inspired to help too.

Mr. President,

I want you to know that I do appreciate the efforts you have made to help shine the light on bullying as my child on the autism spectrum was also a victim of bullying.  Therefore both of these issues are very dear to my heart.

My daughter’s autistic traits were there when she was a baby, but they went unnoticed until she entered school and even then she did not get the correct diagnosis until she was ten. Our experiences prompted me to write a short novel to educate others about girls on the spectrum in hopes of teaching tolerance of differences. I am asking you to please help me to get the word out by turning the White House blue on April 2, 2011 to shine awareness on Autism in hopes that this light will help someone else avoid our fate.

Mahalo for your help,

D. S. Walker