Project Gratitude 2011, Day 56 8

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Today I am grateful that this Geico Gecko lookalike lives outside my home and not in it.  Lizards are common in Hawaii and the name gecko did not originate with  Geico who adopted them as their mascot.  I love them when they are outside my home as they eat insects including termites and cock roaches.  I am not so crazy about them when they make their way into my home.  They are also featured in Hawaiian legends.  You can read more about them by clicking on the link below:

Guardian Geckos – History, Facts & Lore Behind Hawaiian Geckos.

Additionally, I am grateful because I am a featured writer this week over at Help! S-O-S for Parents in the When One Door Closes, Another Door Opens series. 

Danette over at Help! S-O-S for Parents is an amazing individual who puts together a monthly Best of Best Edition on the fifteenth of every month that features topics of interests related to children with invisible special needs.  She is always looking for new bloggers to submit posts on featured topics.  Go over and check it out for more information.  She featured two of my articles on bullying related to school issues last week, so I am very grateful to Danette. 

However, Danette’s contributions do not end there.  Please visit her site for more details as she truly has a wealth of information to share.  Here is a hint; she will have featured book reviews in April with book give-a-ways including Delightfully Different.     

Addendum: S-O-S joined with OJTA in February 2012 to form Special-Ism.com. 

Update on Forgiveness 8

Lifes-Journey-Copy.jpg ©Delightfully Different LifeMy last post about forgiveness brought a wonderful blogging friend into my life, Lisa at Karma Per Diem, read it here.  I am doing an update because I still believe forgiveness is an important part of healing from bullying or any injury from others.  Today I found a wonderful detailed explanation of forgiveness from several religious views at New World Encyclopedia which you can click on below:

Forgiveness – New World Encyclopedia

I found a video about forgiveness too; however, I could not verify the copyright status.  Therefore you will need to click on the link below to view it:

YouTube – Forgiveness and the Freedom of Letting go.

I welcome your views on the topic.  Have you found healing through forgiving someone?

Was It Something I Said or Did? 18

AloeThis normally positive mom is feeling a little prickly today like the outside of this aloe plant.  There are several reasons for this.  The first is I made the mistake of watching Dr. Oz’s show on autism.  I know better than to watch some shows just like I know better than to participate in some discussions. 

I am not on the autism spectrum by any diagnostic criteria or by any of the quizzes for autism or Asperger’s, but I have my own quirks.  My husband and I often discuss the fact that both of us are quirky so we shouldn’t be surprised that our children are although only our daughter is on the spectrum.  Still it may come as a surprise for those parents that are on the spectrum that those of us who aren’t still question ourselves constantly. 

Dr. Oz’s show brought up once again that the advanced age of parents increases the risk of autism.  This is not a big surprise although when I was pregnant I did not worry as much about my age.  Both my mother and my maternal grandmother had children when they were over forty without problems.  I am one of those children so I just assumed my children would be okay too. 

However, one of the doctors on Dr. Oz’s show said that the increased risk is thirty percent for children born to mother’s over thirty-five and the increased risk is twenty percent for older fathers.  My husband and I were both over thirty-five when both of our children were born.  Then another researcher said that children born to parents living within a quarter of a mile of a freeway also have an increased risk of autism and yes, my house is within that distance to the freeway.  The eternal question; did I cause my child’s autism?

I really do not want to buy into the woo as my fellow blogger, Kim, who writes the blog Countering calls it.  I cannot go back regardless and really I do not want to go back.  The reality is overall both of my children are doing well.  Plus, my son was born three years after my daughter so the age thing really does not fit.  

This brings up the other issue that breaks my heart.  Recently, I finished fellow blogger, Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg’s book, The Uncharted Path: My Journey With Late-Diagnosed Autism.  I recommend those who have not read it do; however, this is not a review. 

Her story caused me to look back on all the mistakes we made before we had the correct diagnosis.  Our daughter still has not completely forgiven her dad although I know in my heart our story is different from Rachel’s.  I just want them to have the type of relationship my dad and I had.  Thus, the second reason for the woo! 

Also, I cannot help but notice some of you have not commented on my blogs in ages.  Have I done something or said something wrong?  Reading “Are You Well-versed in Comment Etiquette” by Word Press brought up this question.  See again the doubts so common with my Aspie friends.  I know from reading your blogs that you all have your problems too, and I am hoping that is the only reason. 

I know I am very fortunate compared to so many others in the world. I am grateful for my husband and both of my children.  I just need to learn to turn the television off when they talk about causes of autism and the importance of early intervention another reason for my woo.