Delightfully Different Showcased

Delightfully Different Showcased

Mahalo to Chloe Rothchild and Special-Ism.com for showcasing my novel! Chloe even explains how she relates to the story. 

“I just had the opportunity to read a wonderful book, titled Delightfully Different by D.S. Walker. This book tells the story of a girl named Mia, and her family’s journey to love and acceptance through her special needs journey. As I continued to read this book, the story got so good I just could not put it down. I had to keep reading! Mia’s story is one that you may find yourself able to relate to….Read More

 

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Are Glee Writers Using the Autism Community to Improve Ratings? 6

Read what one blogger said, crown_of_weeds: Sugar, Self-Diagnosis, Appropriation, And Ableism: So Here’s What You Missed On Glee. Do you think they really are using the autism community for ratings? Is this really what our society has come too? I hope not. I really hope the writer did not understand.

Here is an excellent summary of different views in the autism community Debate Heats Up: Is Glee Making Fun of Asperger’s? | Child Mind Institute. There are people within the autism community who do not understand Asperger’s and there are professionals like Allen Frances who make things worse with this What’s A Mental Disorder? Even Experts Can’t Agree : NPR. Is it any wonder that girls on the high-end of the autism spectrum do not get the support and understanding they need?

Here is part of a comment I left on a blogger’s post this morning, “The news media, celebrities and others fight for the rights of sexual orientation, color, religion and even more severe forms of autism and other disabilities including Down’s Syndrome. Most people know what Down’s Syndrome is and most have heard and some are even getting that sexual orientation is not a choice for many. Yet even members of our family fail to understand my daughter. I have left churches that condemned other religions or those who petitioned against same-sex marriage so while your assumptions are valid, you made a leap that missed the mark when you assumed ‘tolerance has to be tailored to fit YOUR PARTICULAR disability or challenge.'” I speak out about injustices related to Asperger’s because people with a diagnosis of Asperger’s are a minority within a minority and girls with the diagnosis are even more of a minority. I speak out because the diagnosis is relatively new (1994), and it will no longer be used in a couple of years therefore, it is misunderstood more than most. Taking such a vulnerable group and making any type of joke at their expense is just wrong.

Please join my e-mail campaign to make a positive change if you agree with me. Find out how in my previous post Glee Needs to Apologize to Autism Community for Recent Episode.

Glee Needs to Apologize to Autism Community for Recent Episode 22

I hope all of you will write to Fox: askfox@fox.com to request an apology from the writers of Glee.  They require the following: In order for us to quickly help you, would you be so kind as to email us with the following additional details:

Your City:

Your Fox Station:

Your Zip Code:

Actual Channel Tuned to:

Cable or Satellite or Antenna?:

–If cable or satellite, your provider?

Type of Set Top Box Used (Name and Model if available):

Are there other times when the problem happens (like during another show or during local news)?:

Here is my letter:

To Whom It May Concern,
I am writing because I have a sixteen year old daughter diagnosed with Asperger’s.  She was diagnosed when she was ten and experienced severe bullying at school in fifth grade.  She has never been initially rude to her teachers, she has near prefect pitch and she is unlikely to request any special privileges especially about something that would call attention to her.  Imagine my reaction to the most recent Glee episode where a character named Sugar, “self diagnosed” with Asperger’s, was rude to a teacher, demanding special privileges including the right to be rude to the teacher, and to join the Glee Club when she is unable to carry a tune.
My daughter recently left a school she loved and had attended for ten years due to an intolerant teacher not understanding how having Asperger’s and the long-term effects of bullying made one assignment impossible for her.  She is still trying to adjust to attending an on-line school.  She misses seeing her friends everyday and in case you are wondering, yes it is possible to have friends when you have Asperger’s.  Her friends are open-minded, caring, and wonderful people.
Imagine how seeing Asperger’s be the brunt of jokes would make my daughter and others feel.  I hope you can imagine and you will request the writers to offer a public apology for all the girls like my daughter who deserve so much more from a show that they love and that has previously shown tolerance for others.  Please help restore my faith in this show and in your network by responding.
Most sincerely,
Sue Kam

aka D. S. Walker
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News Media Reports Parents Blame Asperger 4

In the news today, is the story of a twenty-one year old male from Armstrong County,  Pennsylvania who the media reports had a radical Islamist online persona and videos suggesting paramilitary training for terrorist activities. During his arrest last week he is alleged to have bitten two FBI agents and reached for a concealed weapon. The reason I am posting this is the media also reports that his parents are saying he has Asperger’s and offering this as a defense. It is unclear if this is just a defense for the biting or for everything.

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We have a friend who is a weapons trainer for the military who let my son shoot this gun once, but my son normally only shoots air rifles. My son is not the one with the diagnosis, but I don’t know why anyone outside of the military would need the type of weapons involved in this case.

Below is the news article:

FBI finds another alleged home-grown jihadi in Pennsylvania « Hot Air.

Here we go again placing the blame on Asperger’s! I don’t know if anyone remembers, but when the Virginia Tech shooting happened the first response from his family came from an Aunt in Korea who said he had been diagnosed with autism as young boy. It upsets me that the news media jumps on this and runs with it, but they at least are somewhat reasonable in the article listed above. It is the comments that follow that are really the concern and especially the fact that everything gets so twisted the more the story is told.

I personally think whatever is going on with this young man, it is more than Asperger’s.  After the Virginia Tech shootings, we learned that he was a victim of horrific bullying in high school. Now I don’t know that even that caused him to become a shooter and I don’t know anything about the young man in today’s story other than what is in this article.

However, I do know that with understanding and support children can overcome bullying. I also know that Asperger’s does not make someone a terrorist or a shooter. What our children need is what every child needs an environment of tolerance, acceptance, understanding and support to manage challenges that sensory sensitivity and literal thinking can cause. They certainly do not need to be lumped into a group that implies they have no morals or ability to make their own rational decisions anymore than they need to be told that their Asperger’s is not relevant or it is just a made up diagnosis by over-reactive parents.

My child knows that Asperger’s is not a “get-out-of-jail-free” card and from reading other blogs, I know most parents of those on the spectrum agree with me. I want the media to stop blaming autism spectrum every time the diagnosis comes up in these cases. I want our society to change to a climate of helping those on the autism spectrum and anyone else who faces challenges. I want bullying to stop, even bullying by the news media.

Please try to find out exactly why this young man decided violence was the answer to his problems, but don’t blame his diagnosis of Asperger’s unless you have facts to support this. There are many people on the autism spectrum who have endured enough abuse in their lives without you feeding into it. Many have grown into amazing adults against all odds. Just look at Temple Grandin or better yet take the time to read some of the blogs listed under Special Peeps. There you will find some accomplished people who happen to also have a diagnosis that places them on the spectrum. You will also find parents who are working hard to raise responsible and caring children who have a diagnosis that places them on the spectrum.

And parents, if you have a troubled child with any diagnosis don’t blame the diagnosis. Get help for your child and be there to help them through whatever is causing them pain instead of blaming them. It is your job to turn them into the best adults they can be, so you don’t get a “get-out-of-jail-free” card either.

Aloha,

Sue