Silence Is Not Always Golden 2

I know many of my friends and loved ones believe “Silence Is Golden.”  However, for those of us who are striving to promote understanding, tolerance, and acceptance for our loved ones, your silence really isn’t golden.  It is not golden if you witness bullying either. Bystanders have to learn the importance of speaking up and they need to be rewarded for doing so.

Changing the world to place where all humans are equally valuable and where people honor and respect differences is my mission. That is why I wrote Delightfully Different.

It is my first novel, so frankly I was not sure I could write it.  I know I couldn’t have done it justice without help.  I was fortunate to have multiple people who came forward to offer advice during the writing process.  One was a dear friend who is a free-lance editor.  I thank her by name in the book, but I won’t name her on the Internet for she’s modest.  I even had multiple people read drafts of my book along the way.  I was fortunate to have two local authors who gave me insights about their adventures in writing and publishing too.  When I explained that I knew I needed an editor, and that I was thinking about self-publishing, they recommended iUniverse.

I want to also clear the air regarding any concerns you may have about my children or even about my extended family.  My daughter’s story inspired the novel, but it is not a true story. The true story would have you crying so hard you would need a box of tissues.

There may be parts of the book that make you cry, but the story is only sad due to misunderstandings, the bullying and normal life events. The bullying is not as severe as the real bullying my daughter experienced. All of the characters good, bad, and indifferent exist only in my imagination. My children both supported my endeavor.  They both also know the importance of understanding and tolerance of others, and I’m very proud of them for this.

I long to hear your thoughts about my posts, about my novel, and about my campaign to change the world to a place that is free of bullies. Therefore, I welcome your comments, your e-mail subscriptions, your following my blog, your liking my Facebook page, your following me on Twitter or any other way you are comfortable showing your support of this endeavor.

Mahalo,

D. S. Walker

The Right Way to Prevent Bullying

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Today’s title is linked to a story from Valhalla, New York:http://abclocal.go.com/wabc/story?section=news/local&id=7772087

It is about triplets who started a program to educate younger kids in how to prevent bullying. I strongly advise you to watch this. All schools need to encourage more programs like this one. I hope when colleges look at community service, they give these seniors bonus points because they are examples of upstanders.

I love school systems that encourage older children to look out for younger ones. The seniors told the middle school children things that were important, like that threatening and harassing text messages should be reported to their parents and to the police. They also taught them that bystanders could and should speak up, as they make a difference. This is the type of message that needs to be given more often. Schools programs that teach children how to be good citizens and what laws can be used to protect themselves are so needed today. I hope you will help to pass this message on to others.

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Most of you know this blog initially started as a means to promote my book, Delightfully Different. I am happy to tell you that I submitted the final proof to iUniverse this week. The book will be available through their site in the next ten to fourteen days. Here is the link to their site: http://www.iuniverse.com

Writing for me has become a process that is a rewarding cathartic. There is a certain irony to this as I went into nursing years ago so I could help others. My teachers wanted me to pursue either a journalism or an English major instead. You see these were truly my strong subjects not science. My old English teacher is hopefully watching from heaven, and I recently received a long letter from my high school journalism teacher. Thanks to both of them for giving me a love of reading and writing.

I will also continue to blog, as I have found that doing the research for the blog has helped me to continue to learn, and to be open to other’s ideas on the subjects of bullying, autism spectrum disorders, and forgiveness. It is a continuing journey and a learning process which I am enjoying immeasurably.

To Err Is Human_To Forgive Divine. 3

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This is a very old saying originally written by Alexander Pope.  Divine can mean God, supremely good, or heavenly.  I leave it to the reader to determine this for his or herself.

You may ask what this has to do with Asperger’s Syndrome or with bullying, which are the two topics I generally focus on in this blog.  I say it has everything to do with both, as people with Asperger’s especially those who experience bullying, have trouble forgiving.

However, that is not why I chose this topic for today’s blog.  I chose it because today I was reminded that I too have to learn to forgive.  Otherwise, I’m a fraud who has no business asking my daughter or anyone else to forgive.

The reminder came in the form of an e-mail that was not even intended for me, yet I am the one who received it.  The sender thought he was addressing another member of my family.  This is not even really the point.  The point is on seeing the sender’s name; old feelings of anger came back.  Why I was angry is not important.  What is important is the lesson I learned today.  You see I really do believe in forgiveness, yet here I was holding a grudge against someone I hadn’t heard from in years.  I realized I had to let go of the anger and move on, in order to avoid grinding my teeth and wasting my day on something that is no longer important.

How many times in my life have I refused to let something go and ended up hurting myself?  I don’t even want to think about it.  I want to truly learn from my mistakes and move on with my life.  I want to become a more tolerant person and today I was.  I responded kindly to the sender, and let him know that the e-mail address was incorrect and wished him well.  It really did feel good to do this instead of letting my anger fester and take control of my day.  So yes, to err is human and to forgive is divine.  I look forward to your views on this.