I have been reading others’ posts about the reason they started blogging. Blogging is not without risks since it involves sharing with the world. The risks for my family are even greater because a few years ago my daughter was targeted by people she knew shortly after she was diagnosed.
That is when my mission started. I quit work, I read every book on sensory sensitivity and Asperger’s that I could find. I bought books on bullying that I read cover to cover, and I talked to the local contact at BullyPolice.org. I explored the local bookstores to see what tween girls were reading. I set my TiVo wish list to include autism, bullying, and Asperger’s Syndrome. I attended conferences and I googled and read more.
Next, I wrote our true story, and then reality hit me like a ton of bricks. I couldn’t use our story! The story had to be fiction to protect my daughter and to protect those who harmed her too ironically. Still, I did not want to trivialize the facts, so it is fiction with all events and all characters changed to protect the innocent and not so innocent. The feelings from the misunderstandings, the love shared between the characters, and the effects of the bullying are real.
I will never knowingly do anything to hurt my family or anyone else for that matter. Yet, I ultimately want this story disseminated to more people; therefore, my publisher suggested that I start a blog. Previously, public forums were off-limits to me. However, getting the message out that the world needs to change to a place of tolerance of differences and hopefully to acceptance of differences is my mission. The question of how to do this while remaining anonymous came up from the day I took on this task. Not an easy thing to do in this age of technology as I am sure many of you know.
Ultimately, my daughter agreed to my writing a blog, as long as I am careful about sharing too many personal stories about her. She and I have come to the decision that it is not possible to remain completely anonymous and promote the message. Still, I am very protective of her and of the rest of my family, and I will not apologize for this. If this makes me appear untrustworthy to some, so be it. If including information about my book, written to promote this message, makes others think this blog is just about self promotion, so be it.
Blogging has brought me to even more information and greater understanding, as I have read many of your thoughts and stories and I have commented on some. Many of you have welcomed me into this blogging community, and I am so grateful to you. I hope you know who you are even if I do not always comment on your blogs. Others are not as welcoming to those they consider to be outsiders, but I cannot waste time worrying about them.
I have made a decision. I will no longer allow other people to define who I am or who my daughter is. I am her mother and she is my amazing, talented, brave daughter who I will fight to the death to protect. I will do the same for my son, my husband, my close friends, and all of my family.
How about you? What steps do you take to protect your family? What would you do if someone targeted your loved one?