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The myth is that if your child cannot fall asleep it is due to either anxious parenting or lack of firm parenting. The legend is that those on the autism spectrum can totally avoid sleep problems if they avoid sensory overload and they are in a calm environment. The mystery is why those on the autism spectrum have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep.
Too many parents of children on the spectrum experience judgement for their child’s sleep problems and are given poor advice as a result. I am one of them. I can tell you now that if you talk to my fifteen year old that she will collaborate that the environment was quiet prior to her bedtime, and I was calm as we read her bedtime stories, told her stuffed animals good night and said her prayers during her toddler years. Her bedtime was the same every night too. Still she rarely slept more than six hours and she frequently had trouble going to sleep and went through periods of waking up several times a night. She completely gave up her daytime naps unless she was ill by the time she was three.
Parents are also told that if they remove bright colors and all electronics from the bedroom and keep the house quiet their child will be able to sleep just fine. Some recommend adding deep massage and/ or aroma therapy. My teenager will tell you this does not work for her. There are many times that she has no idea what keeps her awake. Her mind just has trouble shutting down when it is bedtime. She does eventually fall asleep. She does get enough sleep to function either by taking naps or by sleeping longer some days.
No one knows for sure what causes those on the autism spectrum to have problems with sleep yet it remains an issue into adulthood for many. Baylor College of Medicine believes it possibly is due to alterations in the production of melatonin. You can read about their study by clicking on this link: Treatment of Sleep Problems in Children With Autism Spectrum Disorder With Melatonin – Full Text View – ClinicalTrials.gov.
I believe we need to quit believing there is a one size fits all range of needed sleep or even for the time of day people sleep. Maybe some children and some adults do not need as much sleep as others. Maybe some people are born night owls and need to sleep later in the day. Mayo clinic seems to think this is true for teenagers anyway. Click on this link to read more: Teen sleep: Why is your teen so tired? – MayoClinic.com.
Let me know what you think!
Autism Spectrum brought a different view of the world into my life. This picture is a different view of a well-known landmark. Do you still recognize it?
It is Diamond Head, just not from the view most people recognize.
There is a new kid in town and no it is not this bird. The bird is a Cattle Egret a.k.a. Bubulcus Ibis. I have been wanting to get a picture of one and today I was able to do this. His pictures seemed prefect for this post.
The new kid is someone I love dearly and whom I totally support although I am not adding her link or mentioning where you can find her. This is a precaution I feel strongly about since she is a minor. I am following her just not publicly although I am glad others are following her publicly and I encourage you to do this if you have not. I am very proud of her and I am passing the reins regarding sharing her story to her.
That is why I am not answering questions directly related to her for future post although there will be a post of answers to questions on Mommy Lebron’s blog tomorrow. She is aware of my answers and is okay with them, but I am not comfortable with any further questions directly about her. Again, I want to protect her as much as possible while still encouraging her.
Related to this, I am having thoughts about starting one or two new blogs. I want to keep my life, as an advocate for tolerance and acceptance of differences for those with special needs, separate from things I want to post related to brain storming ideas and the writing process for my next novel. I plan to change the tone of this blog to more general topics related to autism spectrum, bullying, and tolerance rather than specifically as it relates to my family.
In addition, I still plan to continue to write about forgiveness and gratitude. I am not sure if I should continue to post my forgiveness and gratitude posts here or start a third blog as obviously some of these posts are directly related to bullying issues and to my beautiful daughter. Your thoughts on this one might help me with my decision.
All of my blogs will be accessible from my author site as pages whatever I decide. I hope you understand my decision. I will be blogging here at least weekly until the end of the year. I may decrease the posts here after that, but I do plan to keep the blog.
I awoke shortly after three AM to get ready for my first television interview at one of our local news stations. I was nervous and afterward I thought of other things I should have said including mentioning what a broad spectrum autism truly is, yet despite this and having a bad hair day today of all days, I survived. I do ask that you keep in mind that I only had two and a half minutes to talk and believe me when I say it went by fast. You can view it here.