Jen’s Blog Hop 2

Diamond1WMK

A blog hop started at The King and Eye has bloggers adding links to their very first blog posts.  So here is the link to mine, https://dswalkerauthor.com/2010/09/05/bullying-is-a-very-real-issue-especially-if-you-have-aspergers-syndrome/.   You can click the Blog Gems to the right of my blog to view others. 

Just remember it is my first post and I wasn’t sure what to expect when I started blogging.  Therefore, the first blog was short and cautious.  It’s hard to believe it was only three months ago. 

Did You See Santa Bully Rudolph? 2

Rudolph

Rudolph has always been one of my favorite Christmas shows, but we were too busy to watch it when it was on a week ago, so my family and I watched last night.  Thanks to my fellow bloggers, I watched it with a fresh set of eyes.

You see Laura over at The House That Asperger Built had a post about it last week which involved much blogger discussion.  It started me thinking about a lot of things that really hadn’t occurred to me before.  Now obviously everyone knows Rudolph and his buddies were not treated very well.  That I got.  What I didn’t get was how the whole show was  about being cruel to those who are different.  When you look at it that way it makes you think.

My thoughts are that at the time Rudolph was made, it probably was meant to teach tolerance, but given today’s climate, it really does seem cruel.  I can certainly see why some of my fellow bloggers would not like it, so I have some questions for you.

Do you think Rudolph should have let Santa off so easy?  Remember I’m all about forgiveness, but even I can understand why many in the blogging community would think he shouldn’t have.  Still, I think Rudolph did the right thing.  It would have been nice if Santa had really changed, but that isn’t really clear in the story.  For those watching Charlie Brown tonight, what about Lucy?  Is she a “mean girl?”  Let me know if you think of others?

Save Your Violins for the Orchestra 2

Save your violins for the orchestra.

Save your violins for the orchestra.

Please no pity parties for my family or Mia’s. We happen to know the wonderful traits of autism spectrum, and no it isn’t really a “disorder.” The only disordered group we know of are the bullies. They may not carry a diagnosis with the word disorder included, but they are the ones who have a disorder all the same. I say prayers that one day they’ll get that their behaviors are just wrong.

So, when you read Delightfully Different keep your violins in their cases unless you know the notes to Mia’s symphony or you become inspired to write one of your own.  Violins are for playing music not for pity parties.  We’re doing great here, but we would appreciate it if you shared our story School with others, so maybe it can help them too.

With much Aloha “from the land where palm tree’s sway,”

D. S. Walker

Do We Bully When We Strongly Disagree with Others? 3

People

I posted this on Facebook:

“I know many of my FB friends aren’t fans of President Obama, and he has let me down in some areas too. However, all of you have to admit that he and his family do seem to care. I love that he and Michelle instill the value of service to others in their children.”

Many of my Facebook friends are people I grew up with in the southern part of the United States, so I knew they did not like President Obama.  I expected some of the initial responses I received, but they were okay as I knew the sources and one of them was even able to joke about our differences of opinion.  She’s one of my best friends from high school, so it was all in fun and she even made me laugh.  I also knew the second person to shout out about my post well enough not to take it personally.  The third however I don’t know although we do have mutual friends.

Therefore, I was a little surprised by the post.  I’m not angry with her, on the contrary, I am grateful to her.  She allowed me to open up a dialogue that has been brewing for some time.  I really have a problem with the seemingly lack of attention that the bullying issue is getting in our country by the average person on the street.  Members of my family who know how important this is to me still don’t know how severe the bullying in our schools is today.   So when a relative stranger commented on the post about President Obama, it seemed like the perfect time to try again to get through to people.

I would be willing to bet that many of my friends and family aren’t even aware that my child has Asperger’s even though it shouldn’t be hard to figure out from my posts.  I also have not tried to hide, from my friends and family, that I wrote a book to teach tolerance of differences to try to prevent bullying.  Yet, only a few of them have acknowledged my plea for their help in getting the word out.

They are not alone; however, posts about anger at President Obama get more time on the live feed at Facebook than a plea for understanding and support to stop the bullying.  I think we need to really take a hard look at our values as a society.  Let me know what you think?