Dear _______,
I’m really trying to believe you have changed. I see signs that you have, but I am skeptical where both of you are concerned. I have believed in you in the past only to watch you crush my daughter’s spirit. She will be okay in the long run. I know because she is stronger than she seems. After all, she is my daughter.
Still, forgiving those who almost destroyed her is not an easy task especially when she has never received a sincere apology from either of you. One of you flatly refused to give her what she needs to heal more quickly. The other one tried to convince others that she made things sound worse than they really were. I know this is not true and so do you if you are honest with yourself.
Yet, I also know that she and I need to forgive you to heal ourselves even if your changes are only surface deep. Perhaps that is the only change you are capable of making right now. I do not know. I am merely grateful that you are both out of our lives.
The most important thing I have learned from our experience is that we are all connected. Of, course, I know we do not appear to be as connected as either one of you, but in this web of life, we are. That is why I will continue to ask God to help me to learn to truly forgive you, and I pray you both continue to grow in true understanding of others. I especially pray that you no longer perceive anyone as not worthy of you.
With aloha,
Sue
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Love the last paragraph about connection, Sue. I also love how you recognize your daughter’s strength as well as your own. I sense a bit a gratitude in this letter because these individuals have helped you and your heart grow. Thank you for this powerful and honest post for peace. {{{hugs}}} Kozo
Hugs to you too Kozo. Yes, they have helped my heart to grow. Mahalo for reading between the lines.
Fantastic connection between us. All as a result of you choosing to follow Learning from Dogs. Thank you!
You are welcome.