Reflections: Where Do I Begin? 10

The last two days I have sat in this swing trying to decide how much I want to share with you to explain why I have been MIA. I realize no matter what I say it will not fully explain everything. It is impossible to see through someone else’s eyes or to completely understand their feelings no matter how much they share.

We recently passed the one year anniversary of leaving my daughter’s former school. We also passed the one year anniversary of my brother’s first surgery due to his cancer, and it has been one year since my fall and subsequent lumbar compression fracture. We are all three still facing challenges. Yet, we are all on the road to recovery.

Those who read M’s blog know she wrote a letter to her former school on her blog around the time of the anniversary. I am so proud that she chose to do so. She released her frustration and is continuing to work toward her goals although overcoming bullying is not easy.

Her anniversary coincided with the release of Lee Hirsch’s movie Bully in local theaters. Those who have been reading my blog know that the poor response it received in Honolulu disappointed me. I sincerely hope the schools will do a better job once it is on video.

I am especially disappointed that M’s former school made no effort to take the students to see it as I encouraged them to do, but they are making baby steps toward their bullying problem according to the chaplain and the elementary school assistant dean. I know both of them have their hearts in the right place and they both still express concern for M.

The high school dean is a different story, but I will not get into that here other than to say that M. still deserves an apology from the school and my request for this has fallen on deaf ears. Still, I will not give up. A new headmaster will be arriving in July, and I hope he will see that giving my daughter a formal apology is the right thing to do.

My brother had his fourth surgery recently, but he is on the mend and hopefully in a few weeks he will have his last surgery.

I was 80% better until I had a bad virus a few weeks ago. Now I am starting over with my walks and my exercises. I have faith I will get back to 80% since it really is only reconditioning and not another injury. I am still aiming for at least 90%, if not 100%. I am taking care of myself as I promised when I joined the Oxygen Mask Project.

Overall, life is good. M. is interacting with her friends again. I had a fabulous mother’s day. M. cooked my breakfast. My hubby and son and I went to see The Avengers. M. saw it the day before with her friend. Hubby even cooked lobster for dinner, so yes, life is good and I am still grateful.


  1. I’m glad life is going well, though there are challenges. Things get busy. Life gets exhausting. It happens to us all. I hope you get all the way to 100% and maybe even beyond–nothing boosts those numbers like wisdom gained.

  2. It’s nice to have you back, Sue. Your voice on these issues is a very cogent and important one. Also, great to hear that things are looking a tad better and that setbacks were momentary. I did enjoy M.’s letter to her old school. I do hope that someone takes the initiative to give what is needed…it is so simple a request which would go so far to heal wounds. Anyway, welcome back and I look forward to more…

    • Mahalo Phil!

      I hope so too, but not sure if they will. Just yesterday someone in the community told me that they doubt the school will do the right thing because they believe their lawyers will advise against it. I hope they are wrong.

  3. Such a huge year this has been – with so many challenges. I am glad to hear that you are finding pleasure in your family and daily joys. Bless you!

  4. What a positive and forgiving character you have. It is no wonder your daughter is doing so well after such an atrocious experience . I am sure she has inherited your persona:-0) As much respect as as I had for you it is threefold now. You are an inspiration. You will ALL be in my thoughts and prayers.

  5. Glad that you are all making progress! Is hard to work through so much emotionally. We will all be here when you are ready to write again. I hope they apologize to her.

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