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You know how people believe that when something enters your mind multiple times there must be a reason.  Well the first thing I thought of when I read Word Press’ prompt for today was an “Aha!” moment I had back in October about forgiveness.  I blogged about it then, so I am including the link to this post below.

To Err Is Human_To Forgive Divine. | dswalkerauthor

Yesterday, I participated in a blog hop that also resulted in my once again examining my beliefs about forgiveness when I found a blog where someone was questioning how she could forgive.  Here is the link:

A (little) Rant Re: Forgiveness « Karma Per Diem

Last night Oprah’s guests were two families who were directly impacted by anger from extremely harmful events in their lives.  I thought how sad that they were not able to forgive before more people were wounded.

I want to be clear about my beliefs on forgiveness and why I have them.  I must admit that I am still human, so I’m still prone to initially react with anger although I try not to do so.  I do get over things easier than I did in the past, but for me it is still a process.  Here is another link to one of my former posts which explains how my beliefs came about:

Lessons of Forgiveness | dswalkerauthor

Look at all three of these posts and let me know what you think.  Do you believe in forgiveness?  Let me know why or why not?

Addendum: Being Proactive vs Reactive: The Power of Forgiveness – A Bloggable Life has been removed as Sandie no longer has this blog.

11 comments

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  2. Sue, such a great round-up, thanks for including my post.

    Forgiveness is one of those topics that’s so different for everyone (everyone handles it differently), and just about everyone I know has struggled with forgiveness at one time or another—I guess we always will. The only thing I can say with certainty, is that forgiveness takes time…and sometimes the hardest people to forgive our ourselves. As I mentioned in my post, I think when we forgive, we are really learning to love…

    • Sandie,
      Thank you for stopping by and I’m glad I included your post. I think all views that contribute to people learning to let go of anger are equally important. 🙂

  3. I enjoyed reading all the posts. I don’t find the idea of forgiveness to be helpful. If I am angry at someone for something they did, my anger really does me no good unless it happens to spur me into an appropriate activity. And when I am able to move beyond my anger, it does not mean that I have forgotten the deed and it also likely means that I do not trust the individual in question. A person can be wary without being consumed.

    Rather than say I forgive someone, or working towards forgiving someone, I would work towards understanding them. I can understand reasons that I don’t have to agree with.

    • Is a rose by any other name still a rose? You bet, so call it whatever works for you. Just don’t allow the anger to consume you. It sounds to me like you get it! Thanks so much for commenting and for stopping by. 🙂

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  5. Sue, I think I’m a work in progress… I know my anger is defining me as a person as of late, and I’m trying desperately to hold on to the “old” Lisa, but I think since the persons who created the harm feel no remorse, I just can’t move on toward forgiveness. I told Sandie at A Bloggable Life that maybe it’s because I can’t forgive myself for being so damn vulnerable in the first place. Stupid Lisa Syndrome.

    • Lisa,
      We have all made mistakes in our lives and being vulnerable doesn’t make you stupid. It makes you a caring human being who might have missed seeing something because the other person was good at hiding their flaws. Forgiving yourself is most definitely the first step. I’ve learned from every single one of my mistakes. Do I wish I hadn’t made them? You bet! Hind sight is 20/20! I am still grateful that I learned from my mistakes and I try to focus on what I learned instead of how I screwed up. You might not get the “old” Lisa back, but you might find you like the “new” Lisa who can still care, but with a little more caution.

  6. Sue,
    I’m intrigued but afraid. I don’t want to click on the links and run smack into jumble. 😦
    Forgiveness is something I struggle with. It’s not that I can’t forgive. It’s that I’ve been burned so much, in the past, when I have forgiven, that I’m pretty cynical, once I’ve been crossed. Just one of the many things I need to work on.

    Thanks for the post!

    • Ah yes, I do get that! I guess on my main post I wasn’t clear. Forgiveness is not about forgetting and you don’t have to even talk to someone to forgive them. It is more about letting go of the anger so you no longer let it define you. I used forgiveness as a way to become an advocate for my daughter instead of “storming the bus.”

    • Laura, I’m Lisa who wrote one of posts. Of course, I would be the one struggling with forgiveness…. Feel free to click on my post; I promise you won’t get into trouble! It will just take you to my blog! A normally friendly blog except for my little rant on forgiveness! 🙂 Lisa

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