Monthly Peace Challenge Love Thy Enemy (Dear ______, I’m Really Trying …) 5

Dear _______,
I’m really trying to believe you have changed. I see signs that you have, but I am skeptical where both of you are concerned. I have believed in you in the past only to watch you crush my daughter’s spirit. She will be okay in the long run. I know because she is stronger than she seems. After all, she is my daughter.

Still, forgiving those who almost destroyed her is not an easy task especially when she has never received a sincere apology from either of you. One of you flatly refused to give her what she needs to heal more quickly. The other one tried to convince others that she made things sound worse than they really were. I know this is not true and so do you if you are honest with yourself.

Yet, I also know that she and I need to forgive you to heal ourselves even if your changes are only surface deep. Perhaps that is the only change you are capable of making right now. I do not know. I am merely grateful that you are both out of our lives.

The most important thing I have learned from our experience is that we are all connected. Of, course, I know we do not appear to be as connected as either one of you, but in this web of life, we are. That is why I will continue to ask God to help me to learn to truly forgive you, and I pray you both continue to grow in true understanding of others. I especially pray that you no longer perceive anyone as not worthy of you.

With aloha,

Sue

P.S. Please check out other entries for this Month’s Peace Challenge:

Sarah’s: November-Blog4peace-Love-Thy-Self

Laurie’s Quiet Prayer of Thanks

Letter to My Enemy Within.

B4 Peace November: Love Thy Enemy.

Tomorrow, I will love you. But not today.

Bringing a Village of Support Together 6

What village you wonder? I am hoping it will be a very large village. Calling all parents, all teachers, all principals, all school counselors, all employers, and everyone else! Your support matters! It really does. I dream of a day when everyone gets it.

Bullying is an emotional cancer. Please don’t say it doesn’t kill like cancer. Obviously it does. Unfortunately, we hear the stories all too often. That is why Amalia Starr and I are co-hosting a Twitter Chat. What’s a Twitter Chat you ask?

It is a Twitter party of sorts and you’re invited. Come to this address: http://tweetchat.com/room/bfvllgesupprt, on October 16, 2012 from 9:00 AM HST/3:00 PM EDT until 10:00 AM HST/ 4:00 PM EDT. I hope you’ll come and bring questions related to how we can all come together to change our world to a place where kindness is the norm. I also welcome your ideas for solutions and I look forward to meeting all of you. Just remember we will have to keep communication within the 140 characters or less including the hashtag, #bfvllgesupprt, it stands for bully free village of support.

You can go to http://tweeparties.com/beginners_guide.html to read more about how to participate in a Twitter party. I will also be glad to bring your questions and/ or suggestions to the group if you are unable to attend. You can leave them in the comments on this post or you make contact me @dswalkerauthor on Twitter.

Please remember that a quick e-mail or text saying I miss you or a card saying I’m thinking about you can make a big difference in the life of those who experience bullying. Better yet, how about acknowledging that you saw what happened, and you are willing to go with the person to talk to a teacher or school counselor with them, or to your employer or higher in command for adult bullying or even to the police.

I dream of a day when this is the norm. Two examples of adults being bullied have been in the news this past year and people have rallied around them. Please realize other victims experience even worse bullying, and it is not just one episode like in these two cases. They too deserve this level of support. I want groups to rally around those who experience bullying the same way we rally around those with physical illnesses. Instead of telling kids it gets better, when we know adults are bullied too, let’s really make it better.

Parents teach your children the value of kindness not just by your words, but by your deeds. Schools, you have to stop saying it is not your job to teach values. That might have been true once upon a time, but I doubt it was ever true. Employers you owe your employees a safe environment. I hope all of you will join the party on Tuesday.

A New Way of Teaching (And Learning) 2

A New Way of Teaching (And Learning)

Yay! The new headmaster is bringing change!

Glad they are seeing the light, although I would not call them the leader for teaching empathy. They are not the first school on this island to understand the need for change, nor are they the first nationally. Still it is nice that the new headmaster has experience with the importance of empathy, and I do wish him much success as he implements these changes!

I am grateful for every person and school that finally gets it!

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About Bullies: Bullies Are Human Too! 4

About Bullies: Bullies Are Humans Too!

 

Yes, they injure our special needs children! Yes, they hurt others too! Yes, I know the world abhors bullies, but should we? What if we offered them compassion instead? What if we worked with them to help them develop empathy for others while we work with those they hurt to help them overcome bullying?

You may wonder how I can think this way especially if you know how bullying impacted my family. Yet, that is exactly the reason I feel this way and

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