Monthly Peace Challenge: Woman in the Mirror (Complicated) Reply

The woman in the mirror is complicated.

The woman in the mirror? It is complicated.

I continue to forgive others and myself for human flaws as I examine the woman in the mirror.

I gave one of the three speeches at my high school graduation for the theme entitled, “I Am a Part of All I Have Met …” My part was “The School.” I opened my speech with a quote that still applies to my life today.

The true purpose of education is to cherish and unfold the seed of immortality already sown within us; to develop, to their fullest extent, the capacities of every kind with which the God who made us has endowed us. — Anna Brownell Jameson

I truly am a part of all that I have met and I continue to learn and develop that seed of immortality as I continue to learn from all of the lessons life offers me. I aspire to live a life guided by the teachings of Jesus, Siddhārtha Gautama, Saint Francis of Assisi, Saint Teresa of Avila, Kuan Yin, etc. I want to be more like those I admire in more modern times like the His Holiness, the 14th Dalai Lama, Pope John Paul II, Rabbi Albert Lewis, Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, Jr. and so many others who inspire me to be a better person.

You might have noticed the woman in the mirror is surrounded by Asian decor. It is a part of me now too as it is a part of my husband and children. Yet, I am still also influenced by my southern roots in the Bible belt. And, I am also influenced by the Jesuit university I attended. Thus, I am a complicated woman with complicated beliefs.

I find myself drawn to many of the Buddhist teachings and I find parallels between the lives of Jesus and Siddhārtha Gautama. I likewise find parallels between Kuan Yin and some Christian saints along with Mother Mary. The thing I note that they all have in common is a desire for a more peaceful world beginning with inner peace. This too is my desire.

Per Kozo: 

Created by Kozo at Everyday Gurus for Bloggers for Peace.

Created by Kozo at Everyday Gurus for Bloggers for Peace.

For this month’s challenge, I want to combine this idea of changing ourselves to change the world with the Power of Intention. I challenge you to post a portrait of your ideal self–something that can remind you of the peaceful being you were born to be. Here are a few suggestions …

Don’t forget to link to at least one other B4Peace post and add your post to the Linkz collection.

The Journeys of Life: Monthly Peace Challenge: Woman In The Mirror 

Electronicbadlady’s Bag of Bits: B4Peace: Ideal Self

Inspire the Idea: April B4Peace Post — My Portrait

(Wake Me Up Now) Weekly Photo Challenge: Beginning 4

There is a popular song, “Wake Me Up.”

A New Day Begins.

A New Day Begins.

This is your new day, the beginning. Don’t wait until it’s all over to wake up whether you are beginning a new chapter in your life, in the life of your child, in the life of your pet, or in your career. While there are a few things I would correct if I could go back in time, the reality is every single mistake I made taught me something. I would never be as wise without those lessons. So, don’t wait until you are wiser and older to wake up.

Parents of crying babies might wish for this phase to end. Stop and breathe instead and be grateful for those sleepless nights. Every moment you spend with your child is precious. The day will come quickly when your child is too old to carry and comfort when they cry, but I promise every sleepless night will help them learn to trust you and continue to come to you for advice.

At the beginning of life.

At the beginning of life.

Puppies may chew your favorite shoes or wet your favorite rug, but they are still so cute and so much fun to play with. The day will come when your dog no longer has the energy to play and yes, they might once again wet you favorite rug, but if you took the time for them when they were puppies, they will trust you with their lives and they will remain fateful to you until the end.

You might be nervous about that first day on the job, but I urge you to hang on to the joy. The joy will help you to adjust to changes that are sure to come in any career you choose.

Beginnings don’t end when we are older and wiser either. Life is all about change and every stage of life teaches us something new. Embrace the lessons and you will find joy.

Marriage Advice for Peace at Home 2

This month Kozo at Everyday Gurus asked us to do a post related to peace at home for Bloggers for Peace. Click on link for details and then go to inlinkz.com to see others’ posts.

The best advice I ever received regarding keeping the peace in a marriage was given to me at my wedding rehearsal by Henry Winkler, and no he is not a family friend. He just happened to be taking some of his friends on a tour of the church just prior to our wedding rehearsal. I apologize in advance for the poor quality of the video, but keep in mind that it was made over nineteen years ago before HD video was available.

I’m grateful that he took the time to offer his wonderful advice and that we have the video to remind us to follow it.

Popular Show Makes Revenge Seem Like Fun; Think Again

The television show Revenge is hugely popular and I admit I have a guilty secret. I like it too. Still, I want people to understand that in real life, words and actions really do cause harm and this will never be undone by revenge.

Instead anger will consume you. That is why I joined Bloggers for Peace to help me overcome my anger and to continue working towards true forgiveness. Click on the link to find out about this month’s challenge and click on B4Peace to learn more about Bloggers for Peace.

I have written so many posts about teaching kindness and to educate others to help them avoid being hurt. Kindness really does matter and it really does take a village of support to overcome harm caused by those who do not get it.

Therefore, I ask you to teach your children well and if you need help doing this please read the post I wrote for Special_Ism.com on the topic. You might also share the wise words of Frederick Buechner if you have an older child. I believe that if we all join together we truly can change the world to a more peaceful place for all.

Of the seven deadly sins, anger is possibly the most fun.

To lick you wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past,

To roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come,

To savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back …

In many ways it is a feast fit for a king.

The chief drawback is what you are wolfing down is yourself.

The skeleton at the feast is you.

                                                      ——— Frederick Buechner

Do you see the skeleton and the other faces in the clouds? You might need to click on the picture to enlarge it. Hint: The skeleton on the left, near the middle of the page.

Do you see the skeleton and the other faces in the clouds? You might need to click on the picture to enlarge it. Hint: The skeleton on the left, near the middle of the page.

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